I Tried to Scare Him with Divorce and the Police

Threats That Backfired

I never thought fear could get any worse than it already was. Last night, after another screaming argument, I blurted out the only defense I could think of: “If you don’t stop, I swear I’m divorcing you and calling the police!” I hoped my words would shock him into changing. Instead, a chilling smile spread across his face. He stepped closer, eyes dark with anger. In a low, mocking tone he replied, “Go ahead and try. Who do you think they’ll believe? You won’t get far.” My heart pounded. I realized I was trembling – not from my own anger, but from pure fear. I had expected him to back off, maybe even apologize. But now I was more afraid than ever. That night I barely slept, jumping at every creak in the house. By morning, a terrible question hung in my mind: I tried to scare him into stopping… why did it only make me more scared?

Awareness: Recognizing Emotional Abuse and Intimidation

Psychological or emotional violence is just as real and harmful as physical violence. It involves patterns of power and control – using fear, threats, humiliation, or manipulation to hurt you or keep you in line. If your partner’s reaction to your boundary (like threatening divorce or police) was to intimidate or belittle you, that is a form of emotional abuse. For example, did he laugh at your threat, call you “crazy” or “stupid” for saying it, or double down with menacing behavior (like standing too close, grabbing your phone, or saying you’ll “regret it” if you ever actually call 911)? These are red flags. An abuser might do things like smash objects, block your exit, or make scary “what if” statements to instill fear. All of this is designed to silence you and maintain control over you. It’s emotional violence: even if he hasn’t laid a hand on you, he’s hurting you by making you feel unsafe and powerless.

You might be feeling a whirlwind of emotions right now – and every one of them is valid. Fear is the biggest one, of course. After his reaction, it’s completely normal if you’re terrified to take any further action. Many women in abusive situations experience a freeze response – when we feel danger, our bodies sometimes “lock up” or shut down as a survival strategy. Maybe when he challenged you, you froze and couldn’t follow through with calling the police. That doesn’t mean you’re weak or “letting him get away with it” – it means your brain and body are trying to protect you the best way they know how. You might also feel guilt or self-doubt now: “Did I overreact by threatening him? Is it my fault things got worse?” Let’s be crystal clear: you are NOT to blame for his abusive behavior. Nothing excuses his intimidation. In a healthy relationship, your partner would never respond to your fears or boundaries with more threats. The fact that he did is not your fault – it’s a sign that his behavior is abusive, not that you “handled things wrong.”

Also, you’re not crazy and you’re not alone. Abusive partners often try to convince their victims that any protest or attempt to get help is “crazy,” “dramatic,” or a betrayal. That’s just another manipulation. Feeling afraid and wanting to protect yourself is completely normal. Many women in similar situations have thought, “Maybe if I threaten to leave or call the cops, he’ll finally realize I’m serious.” It’s a reasonable thought – after all, those are logical consequences for abuse. Sadly, as you’ve seen, abusers don’t react logically; they react with more abuse to maintain power. In fact, research shows that when an abuser feels they’re losing control – like when a partner says she’s leaving – it often escalates the danger. (Leaving or threatening to leave an abusive relationship is known to be one of the most dangerous times for a victim, because the abuser may lash out or resort to extreme measures to stop you from gaining freedom.) So, if his behavior got worse after your threat, it’s a grim sign that he’s trying to tighten his grip. It’s not a sign that you did the wrong thing; it’s proof that his need for control is that extreme.

The bottom line: This isn’t “normal” relationship behavior. Intimidation, mocking your boundaries, making you fear for your safety – those are all forms of abuse. Recognizing this is painful, but it’s also empowering: it means that your gut instinct was right. That fear you feel is your inner alarm telling you something is very wrong here – and you deserve better. You deserve to feel safe and respected. No matter what he says, you did not “cause” his anger by standing up for yourself. The blame lies squarely on the abuser. Now, let’s talk about what you can do to stay safe and regain a sense of control, step by step.

Focused Plan: Safe Steps to Protect Yourself

Realizing how serious the situation is can feel overwhelming. You might be unsure what to do next – that’s okay. You don’t have to figure everything out at once. It’s best to take things step by step, at a pace you feel is safe. Below is a checklist of actions, broken down into what you can start today, what to do in the next few days, and how to prepare for urgent danger if it arises. These steps will help you regain some control and security whether you decide to stay for now or prepare to leave. Your safety comes first.

What You Can Do Today:

• Calm Your Nerves (30-Second Reset). Right now, your nerves are probably frayed. Before anything else, ground yourself with a quick calming exercise. For example, try a simple breathing trick: breathe in slowly for a count of 4, hold for 4, then exhale for 6. Do this a few times until you feel your heart rate slow down. Or use the classic grounding method of naming a few things around you (3 things you can see, 3 you can touch, 3 you can hear). This only takes half a minute, but it signals your brain and body to step out of “panic” mode. When you’re a bit calmer, you can think more clearly and make safer decisions instead of reacting purely out of fear.

• Acknowledge Your Feelings (and maybe Securely Write Them Down). After last night’s incident, you’re likely swirling with fear, anger, confusion – maybe even a strange kind of grief or disappointment. Take a quiet moment today to acknowledge those feelings. It can help to put them into words. If it’s safe, consider writing in a journal about what happened and how you feel. You could use a notes app on your phone (just make sure it’s locked/password-protected) or a old-fashioned notebook that you hide. If you have the WomanAid app, the Safety Journal feature is perfect for this – it lets you write your thoughts or even record voice notes, and it’s all stored securely behind a password (so he can’t access it). Pouring your feelings out – “I was so scared when he said that… I feel trapped and don’t know what to do…” – is not whining or betraying him. It’s validating your reality. What you experienced is real and not okay. Writing it down can also serve as a private record of the abuse (useful later if you seek help or legal action), but at the very least, it gets some of the weight off your shoulders. You might even speak your feelings out loud when you’re alone – hearing your own voice say “I didn’t deserve that. I am scared of him right now.” can be empowering because you’re admitting the truth to yourself. You’re not crazy – what happened happened, and it wasn’t right. Acknowledging it is a brave first step.

• Ensure Your Communication is Safe. After the argument and your threat, your partner might become more watchful of what you do. Today, take a few minutes to safety-check your phone and other devices. Does he know any of your passwords? Could he be reading your texts or emails, or does he have access to your social media? If so, consider changing your passwords (pick something he can’t easily guess). Also, check if any tracking apps or location sharing might be enabled on your phone. If you suspect he might be monitoring your device usage, try to use a secure device (perhaps a friend’s phone or a work computer) for any sensitive searches (like looking up help or resources). On the WomanAid app, enable PIN protection if you haven’t already, and use a PIN he can’t guess. In the app’s settings you can also turn on Interactive Mode, which gives the app a neutral, generic look – so if you open it in front of him, it just looks like a normal utility, not obviously a safety app womanaid.com. This way you can discreetly access help if needed. It’s sad we have to think about these things, but digital safety is part of your overall safety in an abusive situation. Small steps count: even if all you do today is change one password or disable a location-sharing feature that he might be using, that’s progress in protecting yourself.

• Plan a Quick Escape Route (Just in Case). You might not intend to actually leave right now, but as last night showed, things can escalate suddenly. Like a fire drill, it helps to know what you’d do in an emergency. Take a moment to mentally map out: “If I had to get out of the house in a hurry, what’s my fastest exit?” Identify the safest door or window. If you have a car, can you park it such that it’s easy to get to? Is there a neighbor’s house you trust or a 24-hour store nearby where you could go if you had to flee at night? Also, consider hiding a spare house or car key somewhere accessible (but not obvious to him) – maybe in a potted plant outside or taped under a piece of furniture – so you won’t be locked in if he tries to take your keys. Keep your phone charged whenever you can, and know where it is (so you’re not scrambling to find it during a crisis). These are precautions you can keep in mind today. You might never need to bolt out the door – hopefully it won’t come to that – but if it does, you’ll save precious seconds and increase your chance of getting to safety. Just thinking through this “what if” plan can also give you a bit of confidence that you have options, which can reduce that paralyzing feeling of helplessness.

What You Can Do in the Next Few Days:

• Pack a Discreet Emergency Bag. Over the next few days, work on assembling a small “go bag” that you could grab (or already have stashed) if you needed to leave quickly. Include essentials like a bit of cash, an extra phone charger, spare keys, and copies of important documents (or at least photos of them saved on a small USB drive or securely on your phone). Pack a change of clothes and any crucial medications. Choose a hiding spot for this bag very carefully – somewhere he never looks (deep in a closet under old clothes, for example) or even better, store it with a trusted friend if possible. The idea is that if you ever had to run for safety, you wouldn’t have to run empty-handed. Think of it like an insurance policy: you hope you won’t need it, but it’s there just in case. Knowing that this safety net exists can give you a little more peace of mind in the meantime.

• Set Up Your WomanAid Safety Network. The WomanAid app can be a powerful ally, especially now that you know how quickly things can escalate. Take some time this week to add at least one or two Trusted Contacts in the app (if you haven’t already). These should be people you trust with your life – literally – such as a close friend or family member who you could call in a crisis. The app will only alert them if you trigger an SOS, and you can customize what info they receive. For example, you can set it so that if you hit the SOS button (or use a secret trigger in the app’s Interactive Mode), your trusted contacts will instantly get a notification with your location and even a short audio recording of what’s happening. You can also include a brief message or Safety Action Plan for them, like “If you get an alert from me, please call me. If I don’t answer, call the police to check on me at home.” It’s a good idea to talk to these contacts in advance (using safe means) to let them know they’re on your list and what you’d want them to do. Additionally, explore setting up the silent “Healthy Relationship” scenario for your Home geozone in the app womanaid. This scenario (sometimes called Safe Relationship mode) is tailored for domestic situations – it keeps alerts quiet and uses a neutral interface, so you can trigger SOS without tipping off your abuser. The app’s geozone feature can automatically switch to this scenario when you arrive home womanaid. That means your phone can automatically go into a heightened state of readiness (silent SOS mode) whenever you’re at home, just in case. Take an hour this week to familiarize yourself with these features. If it feels too techy, maybe ask a trusted person to help you set it up. Once it’s configured, it’s largely hands-off. The key is that with one tap (or even a hidden gesture), you’ll have a lifeline: your allies will know you need help and where you are, and evidence (like audio) can be captured without you having to say a word. It’s like having a quiet emergency alarm always in your pocket.

• Quietly Research Your Support Options. Knowledge is power – and comfort. Over the next few days, arm yourself with information about what help is available near you. Use the WomanAid app’s “My Safety” section to find local resources: you can search for nearby women’s shelters, domestic violence hotlines, or support centers right in the app womanaid. If you prefer, do an internet search (just be sure to use private browsing and erase history if needed). Make a note of at least one or two hotline numbers or shelters. Many organizations can help you develop a more detailed safety plan tailored to your situation. Some can even provide temporary shelter if you need to get out suddenly, or advise you on legal steps like restraining orders. Save these numbers in your phone under innocuous names – for example, you could save the domestic violence hotline as “Dentist Office” or something that wouldn’t raise his suspicion if he sees it. Or simply memorize one key hotline number if you’re worried about him snooping. You don’t have to call any of these places right now if you’re not ready. Just having the information handy is like knowing where the fire exits and fire extinguishers are in a building – it doesn’t mean a fire will happen, but if it does, you’ll know what to do. This preparation can make you feel a bit more in control and less alone, knowing there are people out there ready to help when you need it.

• Avoid Tip-Offs – Stay Stealthy. After your threat to involve the police, your partner might be on high alert. It’s important in the coming days to be very cautious about letting him see any changes in your behavior or clues that you’re seeking help. Unfortunately, many abusers interpret any sign of independence or planning as a serious threat to their control, and they could escalate further. So, as you take these steps (setting up the app, packing a bag, researching resources), do so as covertly as possible. Do not confront him or announce your plans (“I’m talking to a lawyer” or “I’m getting my own bank account”) if you suspect it will provoke him. Instead, keep things normal on the surface while you gather your support under the radar. If he normally checks your phone, be mindful of that – clear your call logs after contacting a hotline or use a friend’s phone. If you start setting small boundaries, do it gently and watch his reaction closely. For instance, you might choose one mild boundary like taking a step back (literally removing yourself) if he starts yelling, saying you’ll talk when he’s calm. If he respects that even a little, great – but if he blows up more, take it as useful information that right now any assertion of yours enrages him (which is a serious red flag). Only test boundaries if you feel reasonably safe doing so; if in doubt, focus on your covert safety measures instead. Your well-being is more important than proving a point to him.

• Build Your Strength (Small Moments of Self-Care). Living under this kind of stress drains you profoundly. In the midst of safety planning, try to snatch a few moments this week that are just for you – moments that remind you of who you are outside of this relationship. Maybe listen to your favorite song on headphones, take a short walk in a safe area, or call a friend just to chat about something normal. Even 10 minutes of something that brings you a tiny spark of joy or calm isn’t trivial – it’s actually essential. Abuse often makes us feel like we’ve lost ourselves, that our world has shrunk down to just fear and surviving. By engaging in something that you love or that relaxes you, you’re keeping a flame alive inside: the knowledge that “I am still me. I still matter beyond this situation.” Over time, these little acts of self-care can rebuild your identity and resilience. Consider using the WomanAid app’s Journal or mood tracker to log these small victories and how you feel each day. You might notice patterns – like which days or times are the hardest, and when you feel a bit stronger – which can help in planning the best time for bigger decisions. Plus, looking back at a streak of even tiny self-care acts (“I meditated for 5 minutes today” or “I video-chatted my sister”) can remind you that you are making progress and nurturing yourself in the middle of this storm. Each act of self-care is a quiet rebellion against the control he’s trying to exert – it’s you refusing to let him completely define your world.

Signs That Require Urgent Action

While the steps above can gradually improve your safety, some situations call for immediate action. Please pay attention to these red-flag signs. If any of the following happen, prioritize getting to safety NOW – even if that means leaving your belongings behind and calling emergency services right away:

• Threats of Extreme Harm or Suicide: If he explicitly threatens to kill or seriously hurt you (or himself, or others) if you “betray” him or try to leave, take it seriously. Threats often precede actual violence. This is a critical danger sign – do not brush it off as “anger talking.”

• Choking, Strangling, or Use of Weapons: If he has ever put his hands around your neck, even “just once,” or if he’s shown you a weapon or talked about using one, your life could be in immediate danger. Choking in particular is one of the strongest predictors of future lethal violence in domestic abuse situations.

• Escalating Physical Violence: Any physical assault is serious. If his violence is getting more frequent or more severe (for example, yelling turned into shoving, and shoving turned into hitting), don’t wait for it to get “bad enough” – it’s already too far. It will likely keep escalating.

• Complete Isolation or Trapping: If he ever prevents you from leaving the house, takes away your phone/keys/money, or monitors you every second, that’s an emergency. You may effectively be a prisoner in your own home.

• Your Gut Says “I’m in Danger”: Sometimes there might not be dramatic incidents, but you have a constant gut feeling of dread – you find yourself flinching when he comes near, or you’re afraid to sleep deeply. That intuition is there for a reason. Trust it. You do not have to wait for “proof” or for him to actually hurt you to seek help. Feeling unsafe is enough reason to get out.

If any of the above is happening now or happens soon, do not hesitate. Activate your emergency plan. This might mean calling 112/911 (or your country’s emergency number) immediately. Remember that the WomanAid app has a one-touch SOS button for exactly these critical moments. If it’s set up (and you feel safe to use it without him noticing), hitting that SOS can alert your Trusted Contacts and even initiate a call to emergency services with your location. It can also start recording audio evidence automatically. If, however, pressing a button on your phone would tip him off and put you in more danger, then as soon as you get a chance, physically separate and call for help. For instance, the moment he’s not watching you, get out of the house (even if you have to leave barefoot and run to a neighbor’s), or lock yourself in a bathroom and dial emergency, or literally scream for help out a window if you must. Do whatever you need to do to survive in that moment. Your safety is more important than anything else. Don’t worry about feeling like you’re overreacting or causing a scene – it’s better to overreact and be alive than to under-react and suffer serious harm.

(A note on emergencies: WomanAid is a fantastic tool, but it’s not a substitute for law enforcement or medical help in life-threatening situations. In a true emergency, always try to contact the police or emergency services as soon as it’s safe to do so. The app is there to support you – for example, by notifying friends or recording evidence – but you should still treat an urgent threat as you would a fire or medical crisis: get professional help immediately.)

Empowerment: You’re Not “Overreacting” – You Deserve Safety and Respect

Take a deep breath with me now. This is heavy stuff. But please hear this: you are so much stronger than you feel right now. The fact that you’re even reading this – searching for answers, looking for a plan – means there’s a spark of hope and courage inside you. Let’s nurture that spark. It’s what will help carry you through whatever comes next.

I know you might have conflicting feelings. Maybe part of you is thinking, “But I love him… it’s not always bad. What if I’m making too big a deal of this? I’m scared to be alone…” All those feelings are valid. It’s possible to love someone and also be afraid of them. It’s normal to remember the good times and hope for the person you fell in love with to come back. And it’s absolutely normal to be scared of the unknown – of what might happen if you truly stand up to him or leave. Empowerment doesn’t mean you suddenly stop caring or stop feeling afraid. And it definitely doesn’t mean you must up and leave immediately if you’re not ready or it’s not safe. What it does mean is slowly rebuilding trust in yourself – piece by piece – so that you can make the choices that honor your right to safety and happiness. You are not “overreacting” by being upset about how he treats you. You’re reacting like any human would to being abused. And you have every right to seek safety and respect.

Try, for a moment, to talk to yourself as you would to a dear friend. If your closest friend or sister told you she was living in fear because her partner threatened her after she said she’d call the police, what would you say to her? You’d probably say: “You’re not crazy to feel this way. You do NOT deserve to be treated like this. You deserve help and kindness, not fear.” Can you offer a bit of that compassion to yourself? Even if it feels a bit awkward, tell yourself these truths (out loud or in your head) every day: “I do not deserve to be threatened. My feelings are real and they matter. I am not crazy; this situation is. I deserve a life without this fear.” These might seem like simple statements, but repeating them can start to cut through the fog of doubt and self-blame that his abuse has wrapped around you. You are not to blame – remind yourself of that whenever guilt creeps in. The shame belongs to him, not you.

Also, remember that professional help is available when you’re ready. You do not have to go through this alone. There are counselors and support groups (you can find many via the WomanAid app’s My Safety directory or through local organizations) who understand exactly what you’re going through. If therapy seems too much right now, consider a free support group for survivors – many domestic violence organizations run them, even online ones if you need anonymity. Hearing other women’s stories can be life-changing. You’ll realize that others have faced this and made it through to safer, happier lives – and you can too. You are not alone. There’s a whole community of survivors and advocates out there who would believe you, support you, and never judge you. Sometimes just talking to a domestic violence advocate on a hotline, even if you don’t give your name, can validate that what you’re experiencing is real abuse and help you see options clearly.

Let’s talk about guilt for a second. Abusers are experts at making you feel responsible – responsible for their feelings, for keeping the family together, for everything. You might feel guilty at the thought of “breaking up the family” or for potentially getting him in trouble if you involve authorities. But reframe that: By prioritizing your safety (and your children’s safety, if you have kids), you are not betraying anyone – you are protecting yourself and your loved ones. If you have children, remember that an abusive household is damaging to them even if the abuse isn’t directed at them. By seeking a safer environment, you’re giving them a chance to grow up without this trauma, and giving yourself a chance at a peaceful life. You have the right to live without fear. That is not too much to ask. It is the bare minimum every person deserves.

It’s also very understandable to fear his reaction if you take steps to get out or get help. Many abusers do panic and escalate when they sense their partner might leave – as we discussed, it can be a dangerous time. That’s why all this safety planning is so important. Empowerment is not about reckless action; it’s about informed and supported action. Every small step you take – packing that bag, saving those numbers, setting up the app – is increasing your safety net. You’re essentially stacking the deck in your favor so that when and if you choose to make bigger moves, you have backup and a plan. It’s completely okay to move slowly. Tiny steps count. Speed isn’t as important as direction; as long as you’re moving toward greater safety and independence, you’re doing the right thing.

Take a moment to recognize your progress. Seriously, even reading this far is a sign of your strength and hope. Did you do any of the “today” checklist items? Maybe you just changed your phone passcode or wrote down a domestic violence hotline number. That is courageous. Give yourself credit for every act of self-care or self-protection, no matter how small. Each one is a statement that you matter and that you’re not giving up on yourself. Empowerment often comes in these tiny flickers that eventually grow into a flame.

Finally, I want to gently encourage you to make use of the tools at your disposal – including the WomanAid app – as part of reclaiming your power. This app was created because so many people like you needed discreet, effective support in exactly these situations. Think of it as one piece of your support system: it can’t magically solve everything (and it’s not meant to replace the police or medical help in an emergency, of course), but it can tip the balance in your favor. Use it. Maybe tonight, you explore one of its calming features – did you know the app has a guided breathing exercise or “panic button” that can talk you through a calming technique if you’re feeling overwhelmed? Or perhaps you add that trusted contact and feel a bit of relief knowing someone will be alerted if things go south. Even something like setting up a dummy scenario (like a “Healthy Relationship” practice scenario) to see how quickly you can activate an SOS can build your confidence. Every time you use a tool like this, you’re taking some power back. It’s like having a security concierge in your pocket – you’re still in charge of your life, but you’ve got backup at the ready. That knowledge is empowering.

As we wrap up, I want you to take another deep breath. Feel that – the air filling your lungs. That’s life, hope, and strength coming in with each breath. You’ve come this far, and you can go further. The road ahead might be bumpy and there might be setbacks, but you won’t be on it by yourself. Keep listening to that inner voice that says “this isn’t right” – that voice is your inner survival instinct and your wisdom. It’s not paranoia; it’s protection. Trust it when it urges you to seek safety or when it tells you that you deserve better.

Picture for a moment the life you do deserve: one where you can wake up not feeling dread, where you can be your genuine self without walking on eggshells, where love doesn’t equal fear. It is possible. Many women who were once in your shoes have rebuilt lives of peace, freedom, and even joy. One step at a time, you can get there too. There’s no rush, and there’s no one right way – only the way that keeps you safest and feels right to you.

We believe in you. You are not alone, not now, not ever. You are worthy of safety, love, and respect – just as you are, without having to bargain for it or live in fear. Keep this guide as a reminder of that truth and of the practical steps you can take. And remember, help is available whenever you’re ready to reach for it. You’ve taken a huge step just by educating yourself and making a plan. Stay safe, stay strong, and keep going – one day, one hour, one step at a time. You’ve got this.

Resources: Getting Help and Support

• Download the WomanAid App: If you haven’t already, consider downloading the WomanAid app on a secure device. It’s available on both iOS and Android. The app’s My Safety section can connect you with local hotlines, shelters, and support services with just a few taps. This means you can find emergency phone numbers or safe places to go quickly, without having to do a frantic Google search in the moment of crisis. (Tip: The app also has an emergency “Exit” or stealth mode to quickly hide it, similar to the safety features on many domestic violence websites, so you can close it fast if needed.)

• Emergency Contacts and Hotlines: Through the WomanAid app’s My Safety directory or on your own, identify the key hotlines for your area. In many countries, there are 24/7 domestic violence helplines (for example, the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE in the US, or similar services in other countries). Save the ones for your area. These hotlines can help you find a shelter, plan safe escape, or just talk you through a tough moment. Use code names in your phone if necessary, as mentioned earlier – your safety comes first.

• Friends/Family Code Word: Outside of the app, you might set up a simple code word or phrase with someone you trust. Something innocuous that you could text or say on a call that signals “Call the police for me” without tipping off your abuser. For instance, telling your sister “How’s Aunt Betty doing?” (when you have no Aunt Betty) could be your pre-agreed signal that you need help immediately. If you have this set up, add that person as a Trusted Contact in WomanAid too, so they’ll also get the app alert if you trigger it.

• Legal Advice: If you’re considering what your options are in terms of restraining orders or custody (if children are involved), many domestic violence organizations offer free legal clinics or can connect you to legal aid. Use My Safety or ask a hotline to point you in the right direction. The WomanAid app may have links to legal resources as well. Knowledge about your legal rights (like how to get a protection order) can be empowering and important for future steps.

• Self-Care and Mental Health: Seek out counseling or support groups specialized in domestic abuse when you can. The WomanAid My Safety directory lists counseling centers too. Even an online support forum or a local women’s group can provide emotional support. You can also use the app’s Wellness features (like guided breathing exercises, journaling, or even a panic-soothing guide) to help manage anxiety in the moment. Remember that taking care of your mental health is a crucial part of staying safe; stress and trauma can wear you down, so every bit of support helps.

Legal Disclaimer: This article is for informational and support purposes only. It is not legal advice, medical advice, or a substitute for professional services. Always use your best judgment and seek professional help (law enforcement, legal counsel, medical care, etc.) when dealing with abusive situations. The WomanAid app and the advice here are tools to assist you, but they cannot guarantee your safety. Your safety is the top priority – please reach out to certified professionals or emergency services as needed.